[ Epub ] ❥ Addicted to Unhappiness: How Hidden Motives for Unhappiness Keep You from Creating the Life You Truly Want, And What You Can Do Author Martha Heineman Pieper – Intimatenights.co.uk

Addicted to Unhappiness: How Hidden Motives for Unhappiness Keep You from Creating the Life You Truly Want, And What You Can Do Fascinating book so far Has some really good advice not only for raising children, but also pertains to problems that adults have that may have manifested as a result of things that happened in their childhood We all know parents are not perfect, but it is important to analyze our behaviors, examining the past closely so that we can better understand ourselves and our loved ones around us With a better understanding of the role that discipline, love and parenting that our parents gave us, we Fascinating book so far Has some really good advice not only for raising children, but also pertains to problems that adults have that may have manifested as a result of things that happened in their childhood We all know parents are not perfect, but it is important to analyze our behaviors, examining the past closely so that we can better understand ourselves and our loved ones around us With a better understanding of the role that discipline, love and parenting that our parents gave us, we can see our behaviors in aobjective way and try to better ourselves for future generations The book is based on years of research However, it is a relatively easy and fast read because of all of the examples that the authors use to illustrate their points So far, it s a good and very informative read I m not sure I unreservedly buy into the central thesis, which is that when children aren t treated optimally they mistake the resulting negative feelings for happiness because, to their minds, it s what their perfect parents intend for them to feel and must thus be an ideal state According to this theory, adults then end up addicted to the unhappiness they felt as children and consistently act in ways that sabotage their true happiness to bring themselves back to a state of unhappiness wh I m not sure I unreservedly buy into the central thesis, which is that when children aren t treated optimally they mistake the resulting negative feelings for happiness because, to their minds, it s what their perfect parents intend for them to feel and must thus be an ideal state According to this theory, adults then end up addicted to the unhappiness they felt as children and consistently act in ways that sabotage their true happiness to bring themselves back to a state of unhappiness which, to their unconscious minds, equals happiness because it s the state they experienced as small children with their parents.Anyway It s an intriguing theory even if I felt like there was a certain degree of oversimplification it is a layperson directed self help book, after all It certainly does make sense in a way, and whether or not it s literally true I don t see how such a subjective theory could be declared definitely true or untrue anyway , it seems like it could be a very helpful and productive way for people to look at stubborn behavior patterns and vague, chronic dissatisfaction with life At the very least, I think it s a useful thought experiment Are You Unable To Follow Through On Important Resolutions Are You Frustrated Or Inefficient At Work Is Your Love Life Unrewarding Or Filled With Conflict Are You Plagued By Unpleasant Emotions For No Apparent Reason Everyone Is Born With The Potential To Live Fulfilled Lives, But Many Of Us Find It Difficult To Realize That Potential Best Selling Authors Martha And William Pieper Will Help You Understand How You Unknowingly Became An Addict To Unhappiness Using Real Life Examples Drawn From Their Clinical Experience, The Authors Provide Insights And Effective Strategies That Will Help You Choose And Maintain The Happiness You Deserve.RUNNING TIME 6hrs And 59mins 2019 Martha Heineman Pieper, PhD P 2019 Martha Heineman Pieper, PhD I very much appreciated what I learned from this book, and that I need to examine my life for areas where I am satisfied with being unhappy I ve come to live with things that are very wrong but I don t do anything to address them because I accept them as normal Unfortunately, the solutions to solving these issues always involve intentional, focused hard work There are no shortcuts But realizing there is a problem is the first step, and always leads to some improvement So that s the good ne I very much appreciated what I learned from this book, and that I need to examine my life for areas where I am satisfied with being unhappy I ve come to live with things that are very wrong but I don t do anything to address them because I accept them as normal Unfortunately, the solutions to solving these issues always involve intentional, focused hard work There are no shortcuts But realizing there is a problem is the first step, and always leads to some improvement So that s the good news I had never thought of any of this before I do not believe this is completely true for all people But, I do think it has relevance in most people s lives If nothing else, it is very informative on what others think I voluntarily read and reviewed this book in exchange for a free copy. Although I agree that people can make a habit out of being unhappy and thinking negative thoughts, I am not sure I buy into the fact that the unhappiness we experience now is because of childhood experiences and the past relationships with our parents Or at least not to the extent the author believes. Al principio un poco amargo como me gustan , me hizo reflexionar sobre mi conducta y la de los dem s es un gran apoyo para mi profesi n An Interesting Premise Explored with Depth and BreadthI enjoy nonfiction, and therefore, I read a lot of it In these days where self publishing is such a boon, allowing authors who would never have been published by a traditional house to sell their own books, too often nonfiction books are seemingly slapped together from a variety of web sources rather than coming from the author s personal experience or expertise So I was delighted to find this book to be one of greater depth and breadth tha An Interesting Premise Explored with Depth and BreadthI enjoy nonfiction, and therefore, I read a lot of it In these days where self publishing is such a boon, allowing authors who would never have been published by a traditional house to sell their own books, too often nonfiction books are seemingly slapped together from a variety of web sources rather than coming from the author s personal experience or expertise So I was delighted to find this book to be one of greater depth and breadth than I typically see The premise of the book is that our unhappiness, which manifests in a variety of ways from depression to excess weight, stems from the way we were parented, and that we have accepted a certain reality based on this unconsciously It is this invisible aspect that makes the cycle hard to break The book is split into two parts, first exploring how this paradigm is set up and then looking at how you can break the pattern I don t necessarily buy that this affects everyone, though it may to greater and lesser degrees I really liked that this got me thinking about my own background If you re tired of self help books that don t seem to have much substance and you want to attempt to get to the core of any unhappiness that you may have, you may find this book to be of help.I received a free copy of this book, but that did not affect my review.My book blog Builds on attachment theory The harder work on figuring out your emotional makeup is better done wrangling other,intense books for me, Anthony Storr s Solitude and Jonathan Heidt s Happiness Hypothesis to reach the kind of objectivity needed to do what this book suggests Still, several sensible insights It works after you don t need it so badly. The authors are claiming that we can be addicted to unhappiness in the sense that we need it in our lives The idea is really not that crazy because in built into us is the pursuit of happiness As a child unfortunately through inappropriate discipline for appropriately aged behaviour and values we associate our feelings of unhappiness with what makes our parents and authority figures happy Children being mirrors or imitators simply take it in Thus our happiness can be not only linked to appro The authors are claiming that we can be addicted to unhappiness in the sense that we need it in our lives The idea is really not that crazy because in built into us is the pursuit of happiness As a child unfortunately through inappropriate discipline for appropriately aged behaviour and values we associate our feelings of unhappiness with what makes our parents and authority figures happy Children being mirrors or imitators simply take it in Thus our happiness can be not only linked to appropriate things but also things that make us unhappy In fact we hang on to painful things, memories and feelings, simply because they are familiar and give us supposed comfort.This book is not any old self help book but rooted in research and years of practical experiences I found the book really quite helpful

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